pics of your girl thread made me sad

Facime

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well, ok maybe not sad...but definately introspective. Less than a year ago I was (as far as I knew) happily married to the woman of my dreams and my best friend. I was living in Albuquerque NM in a nice condo....but...life seemed empty and unfulfilling. I was in a rut and going nowhere.

Then one day, right before last Thanksgiving, my wife said we needed to talk...and my life crashed down around me even more than it had been. I left NM and came back to Oregon. Today, I dont have my own place (I am staying with my sister for now), and I've been through some changes. A month after she asked me to move out I quit drinking. Ive been sober since. I lost about 20lbs, cut my long hair off and started making plans for my future. I realized I was entirely at fault for not making my wife happy and taking better care of her needs. I miss my wife...I miss her company...I miss her laugh...I miss her smell. I traded that for sobriety, growth and independence. sometimes I think I made a good trade, but its hard nevertheless.

The part I still have a hard time understanding (and always have had a hard time with) is how women can just "flip the switch" and no longer love someone. But I'm trying not to dwell on that too much. I find that since I dont drink anymore, gave up all online games, and really dont know anyone around here anymore, I needed a new hobby. So, I bought a Supra...then another, then another....lol. Its therapy for me. My sister likes to work in the yard, thats her therapy. I need grease under my nails at least 3 days a week to feel productive.

I am not looking for any sympathy so please dont post any. Im really just wondering is anyone else has been through some rough times this year, and is your Supra therapy for you as well?
 

JustAnotherVictim

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Women are bitches, not all but many. My supra never leaves me, neither do my guitars, video games, soccer balls.....
Beer always soothes my pain lol just don't become an alcoholic. My best friend was like that for awhile, not quite so much fun. :nono:

But yes boost = happiness. :icon_bigg
 

Toyota h8r

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Supra therapy? Maybe...i have a 86.5 n/a that doesnt run, and im going after another non-runner, now i dont have a gf anymore. :-( Oh well im gonna save a supee! or two! I also know the feeling of missing someone.
 

Allan_MA70

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Know the feeling!!!! we all make mistakes to regret for a long time! It is the only way we learn unfortunately, we all miss that special woman that made us feel whole but being sad about it does nothing!
All you can do is pour yourself into what ever keeps you sane and the bills payed, for most here that is work and the car!

this year has had its up's and downs.. up's being the new supra, reasonable pay and generaly good. downs being lack of a woman and time for supra / woman.
I'm just taken' it a day at a time get my supra done then get myself a house hopefully somewhere in there a nice woman pops up!
 

Facime

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yeah, Ive never really been without a GF or wife for very long in my life. But I have found that the best way to find one is to not look for one. Just be open to the possibility.
 

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that sucks.. I cant imagine making the choice to marry them, and them sayign they dont want to be with me anymore.. that would suck..

I've had a dry spell for the last 8 months.. which really sucked ass. I've finaly (within the last month) started dating again.. i'm on number 2 in 1 month.. the frst one didnt work out.. the second is a little more promising..
 

Facime

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Oh I forgot to mention I was married for 10 years. I dont know about the overseas thing JJ Im kinda leary about that kind of thing. I actually knew a guy who ended up getting seriously involved with a drug cartell because he dated a Columbian woman...The father was a scary dude. I know that kinda thing usually only happens in movies but this guy lived it.

I think the hardest thing for me is the fact that Im so out of practice and to be honest my self esteem is not so great these days. It doesnt help that Im a cranky old man. And secondly the women my age all look so....OLD to me! lol.

Ive actually been thinking about signing up on one the places like match.com or whatever. One of my buddies actually met a great girl there and they are real happy together. Well, for now anyways. Until she gets tired of him and says they should take in a roommate to help pay the bills and ends up sleeping with the fat Irish cop sonuvabitch and then telling him thanks for all the great years but I need something more in my life and takes all the nice stuff like the 36in TV and leaves him sleeping on some futon matress that the dog used to use in their old condo without enough furniture to even fill one room while she moves out and wont give him her new phone number so he cant call her even to say hes sorry even though he has no idea what he has to be sorry for..........

hmmmm...did I just say that outloud?
 

SupraDerk

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This is exactly why I've been trying to avoid relationships for the last few years. Haha, I got the ole heart stomped on a few times and crushed once. I went on a date earlier this year, the chick was like a freakin ice block, she showed no emotion and it was hard as hell to tell if she was even into me. But now I've started hangin out with one of the girls from my past and I don't know...

I love my Supra...A LOT and I love working on it. Most times it is thereputic (I have no idea if I even spelled that right), but after being with her for like half a night...the Supra didn't really compare to female company.
 

Wills7MGTE

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I am in a rut and going nowhere, I just need to move though, theres nothing here, the weather here sucks, no beaches, no mountians, no real entertainment, and 99% of people around here are 30 years behind the times and are self important, self centered, jerks who use people. So until I move I guess I'll be in neutral.
 

LuvMySilverSupra

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so you were married to the girl of your dreams and your best friend at the same time? they allow that kinda shit in NM? crazy, i've never heard of anyone married to a man and a woman at the same time.


:)
 

Facime

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LuvMySilverSupra said:
so you were married to the girl of your dreams and your best friend at the same time? they allow that kinda shit in NM? crazy, i've never heard of anyone married to a man and a woman at the same time.


:)


I take it you've never had a friend that was a girl...no wonder you love a car! :boink:
 

Jayhall

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supra is theropy, whether it be working on her, or driving the piss outa her, it always makes me feel better when im having a shitty day.