To expand on that, I had a few issues getting my ignition to work right. From looking around at different setups, it seems that a lot of guys that are using the 2j boxes are using the lexus COP setups. I know that you have a 7M box but I think the pinouts are similar.
Justin is using a lexus COP setup and he said that it plugged right into his stock harness with stock ecu. With that being said, I think you could do the same with your AEM.
Also, isnt the frame of the 7M ignitor supposed to be grounded? There isnt a ground in the wiring diagram, so I assume that it is supposed to be grounded through the housing....