Is there a cure for it....

airhead04

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I've been with my girlfriend now for almost 6 years. Its been a roller coaster and Ive enjoyed every minute of it. Over the years we've notice she has become achy and her heart murmur has worsened. Shes gone to doctors and specialist for it but they could never pin point what it was.

Well recently she went and had blood work done and received her results back today. She was diagnosed with lupus. Now when she first told me, I was relieved (sorta) because I knew that 90% of people with the disease live a normal everyday life. And live for many many years. But then she told me that it had spread from just attacking her joints and bones etc, to her lungs, and kidneys, and was slowly working its way to her heart...

I'm only 20 and Ive had family members close to me die, and I was heart broken. But when she told me there isn't much to stop it, and that she was in that 10% of not making it long, I had a feeling come over me like I had never felt. It was indescribable. It was hurt, pain, anger, sadness, everything crammed into one.

I just dont know what to do. Not that there really is much for me to do.

I am unfortunately 1000 miles away in school from her, and will be here for the next year. So I am at a loss here, of what to do.

I am just at a loss of words and feelings. I dont know what to do.

Sorry for my venting session. Appreciate you reading if you do.


(Lupus is an autoimmune disease, it attacks known good cells in the body for one reason or the other.)
 

ATL88Supra

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there is no cure for lupus, that said she can live for a long time with it with treatments, sorry buddy :=/

you need to find out how bad it really is, and if its really bad ditch school and spend the time with her
 

te72

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Man... I'm sorry to hear this, but I've tried on your shoes before. I dated a girl for a long time quite a few years back, she was an epileptic. I was up here in Wyoming working while she stayed in Arizona... she ended up in the hospital after having some 20+ seizures, almost lost her. I ended up quitting a pretty decent job up here to go back to AZ, and about 2 months later, if even that long, we broke up. Last I talked to her, she seemed to be doing good and all, and that's where I left it.

In your case, if it's feasible to possibly go to a school closer to her, I'd suggest you try that.

Also, in an attempt to cheer you up, some words from Mitch Hedburg:

"You know, alcoholism is the one disease you can get yelled at for having. Dammit Otto, you have Lupus. Dammit Otto, you're an alcoholic. One of those doesn't sound right..."